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10 Jan 2017 02:24 PM
10 Jan 2017 02:24 PM
Hi @Annieabella,
Welcome to the Forums!
Setting boundaries and handling conflict can be so difficult in relationships, and especially when BPD is involved.
Good on you for reaching out for support and tips on the Forums - lots of members here have been in similar situations, and I hope you will connect and share strategies with some of them!
You may want to start a "New Discussion" to tell a bit more of your story and get some more targeted responses. In the meantime, you might find some of our Topic Tuesday discussions useful, such as "Setting Boundaries" and "Managing Relationships".
Once again, welcome @Annieabella, I look forward to 'seeing' more of you around!
Shimmer
10 Jan 2017 02:27 PM
10 Jan 2017 02:27 PM
Hi Annieabella
I found it was the worst time to talk or try to resolve conflict when my son was upset and going through a bad time. His emotions were so disregulated it was useless trying to make sense. Much better to wait until he'd calmed down. Validating her pain and emotions works too...I give my son a big hug and this seems to help. I say to him "it must be so had for you at the moment and I'm here to help if you need it". This is hard to do when they are cruel and violent. I am aware of triggers that I may commit so steer clear if possible. Invalidation is always a disaster and I did that all the time until I learnt behaviour to help me. Support groups and BPD Carers' courses were invaluable.
Such a difficult and frustrating journey.
21 Aug 2017 09:52 AM
21 Aug 2017 09:52 AM
29 May 2018 04:13 PM
29 May 2018 04:13 PM
04 Aug 2018 07:15 PM
04 Aug 2018 07:15 PM
Hi community,
I’m new to the forum, I saw reference to some videos with practical strategies for ‘validation’... but I can’t find them again now, could anyone please point me to them? My Mum is long-term undiagnosed BPD (I think) and I’m looking for some help with more strategies to help me address her underlying needs while still protecting myself... Thank you 😀
10 Aug 2018 04:23 AM
10 Aug 2018 04:23 AM
29 Oct 2018 04:43 PM
29 Oct 2018 04:43 PM
You are right BPD is so complex and every person that has it is different, even though they might share some commonalities.
I have BPD but I have it pretty well managed these days. If you have any questions I might be able to help although I can only speak from my own experience and knowledge of course.
29 Oct 2018 04:46 PM
29 Oct 2018 04:46 PM
30 Oct 2018 10:14 PM
30 Oct 2018 10:14 PM
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