Looking after ourselves
well Im stressed just had a talk with a social worker from a hospital who claims my Mother is actually my daughter and referring to asking me if her mother my grandmother is still alive and no shes not ,pluss the social worker referring to my suposed daughters uncle who is actually my uncle as they think my mother is my daughter and frankly I dont like the mention of said uncle anway cause he caused a major rift in the family this year its pathetic that social workers think their right about situations that thay have no idea of !!!!!!!!! 
seriously? Im more than half the age of my mother and lets not get into her and our relationship it sems everytime something happens to her and might I add she is emotionally abusive and great at manipulating authority to get what she wantseverytime something happens she loves to get authority people to refer to me and I dont want to be caught in the loop I want out of it I want to be removed from the loop regarding cause cause what shes done to my brothers and I is horid no normal mother abondens her children to practically raise themselves and leave the eldest daughter to pick up her mess for her and yes she more or less has pushed me into the role of "mother" to my Brothers and yet thats not enough she still wants to make out that Im always the one that has to be referred to by people for information and responsible for her needs aswell heck Im trying to sort out my own mental health and felt very vulnrable on the phone with the social worker from the hospitial and it hasnt helped my current thinking patterns or pyche to try and mess with me like that dont force me to play the role of mother to my mother when she doesnt care to mother us at all the only reason she is in hospital is for a broken ankle and yes thats bad and painfull but the emotional drama crap is a pain too no wonder my mental health issues are flaring more cause this doesnt help,as for the call from the hospital prior to this it was from a surgeon expecting me to give permision and make decions about her having surgery when in fact she is already comftably looked after with legal support to make those desions for her rather than referring to me all the time,I might sound selfish but Ive got enough to deal with raising her 12 year old son as my own son and trying to get his transition to high school smooted out as there is now more paperwork to do with the enrolement process and as for me well yeah Im working on things but dont feel like I j have my own life ,how many times do I have to tell people she is not my responsiblity and shouldnt have to be,Im raising her son my younger brother as my own cause that is the position Ive been put in since a very young age ,it was age 14 to be exact but thankfully I love my brothers so much of cause I wouldnt leave them like she has so where not the mst functional family but we make it work meanwhile Im sacrificing so much and its sad my 12yeard old brother doesnt have a mother that wants to be involved with his life so why the hell does she always force us to be involved in her dramas,I have to get emotionally support from counselling to help myself to have my own life marriage and children one day cause frankly I am missing out for the sake of being there for my brothers
hey @LostAngel, it sounds like you were going through a lot earlier. I empathise with dealing with emotionally abusive people. Just sitting here with you now 
It's honestly great that you have insight about what you want and need (like counselling, to work towards having your own happy life, marriage, & children), and it sounds like you have a great connection with your brothers
I'm really glad to hear that you're focusing on self-care. Music is also really helpful for me - I tend not to go a day without it.
Take good care,
girasole🌻
@Bow I just saw your recent post - I hope those dark thoughts are less intense now. I really feel for you and I hope that you have or can get supports to help you deal with those demons.
At times it might not feel like it, but I want to remind you that recovery from the darkest of times is possible.
Life probably feels hard right now, but myself and the rest of us here on the forums are all here with you, ok? Please keep posting and reaching out; it's a great strength of yours.
